The Te of ARPC dating
This is what I notice about APRC dating. They talk about dating more than they date. They talk, they blog and they talk again. They ask hypothetical questions. They analyze dating as if it is a form of art or science.
OM asked me the other day, “So the girls know that the ratio of guys and girls are against them, it is 3 is to 1, and they know that we guys know that we have an advantage in terms of the number, so if they know that we know, and they expect us to take the initiative, would they say yes because they know that the ratio is against them, and what we guys think and what they think?”
???????
“Errr………” I said. (OM, do you know I am a bimbo? Why you ask me such complicated question?)
Is dating that difficult and that complex?
“So you know, what is dating? Dating to me is just two persons having dinner and going out and getting to know each other and not necessarily getting to know each other to lead to a relationship. Would the girls be pissed off if I ask four girls out at the same time? But I just want to get to know them, maybe it will lead to a relationship or maybe it will lead to a friendship but I consider all of them as dates.”
“well…..” I said.
NP would probably not consider having lunch with me as dates.
“Well, you know, does it have to be so complicated? You like a girl, you ask her out to get to know her. That’s it. Just make it simple.” I offered.
One wisdom from SQ: you like someone and you ask him “hey dude, you want to get to know me or not and see whether there is something there. No? Then get out of my life.”
Of course, don’t be rude. Say it nicely. SQ got a point there. You like that guy and he doesn’t want to see whether it can be developed into something more serious, then you can’t hang around him. You would only get yourself hurt. Be his friend later when your feelings for him have subsided.
“But there is no one I like.” OM said.
???????
“Then no need to ask anyone.”
Is it supposed to be this complicated?
OM asked me the other day, “So the girls know that the ratio of guys and girls are against them, it is 3 is to 1, and they know that we guys know that we have an advantage in terms of the number, so if they know that we know, and they expect us to take the initiative, would they say yes because they know that the ratio is against them, and what we guys think and what they think?”
???????
“Errr………” I said. (OM, do you know I am a bimbo? Why you ask me such complicated question?)
Is dating that difficult and that complex?
“So you know, what is dating? Dating to me is just two persons having dinner and going out and getting to know each other and not necessarily getting to know each other to lead to a relationship. Would the girls be pissed off if I ask four girls out at the same time? But I just want to get to know them, maybe it will lead to a relationship or maybe it will lead to a friendship but I consider all of them as dates.”
“well…..” I said.
NP would probably not consider having lunch with me as dates.
“Well, you know, does it have to be so complicated? You like a girl, you ask her out to get to know her. That’s it. Just make it simple.” I offered.
One wisdom from SQ: you like someone and you ask him “hey dude, you want to get to know me or not and see whether there is something there. No? Then get out of my life.”
Of course, don’t be rude. Say it nicely. SQ got a point there. You like that guy and he doesn’t want to see whether it can be developed into something more serious, then you can’t hang around him. You would only get yourself hurt. Be his friend later when your feelings for him have subsided.
“But there is no one I like.” OM said.
???????
“Then no need to ask anyone.”
Is it supposed to be this complicated?
posted by eternal bough at 5:09 PM
6 Comments:
sorry but wat's the ARPC thingie? sounds fun! can i join??
errr.....ARPC is a church, when you are back in sg, I would bring you there.
oh...
it's complicated maybe it's in a church... it's difficult to tell the guy get out of your life (or u out of his life) when you are in the same church. yet worst, same fellowship, same group of people... bummer. need to be careful.
nothing is simple. If someone calls you simple, you would be insulted. Then if you are not simple, your life circumstances would be complex. Yes, you would end up having awkward moments with that person attending the same service. But you could also end up happy with that person. so your judgement: is it worth the risk?
you could end up happy, or end up with many things (heart broken is one), not just awkwardness... i probably won't take the risk if the probability is not high enough. i'm a mathematician (really!), not a risk-taker. but think i should take some risk.
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