Powerful, feisty and successful
NY Times Columnist Maureen Dowd has been receiving attention for her personal outbursts of her single life, so claimed Guardian in a recent article Powerful, feisty, successful ... maybe that's why the lady can't get a date.
“The pundit of the New York Times threw her well-manicured hands up in the air last week and declared that today's brainy and powerful women can't get a man because they scare them off. Men, she said, preferred to dumb down when looking for love.” Guardian wrote.
So much has been written about men wanting to dumb down. I can’t blame them. Usually intelligent strong women don’t come with a submissive nature.
Submissiveness, I think, is not just a necessary trait in maintaining a marriage but also in maintaining all forms of relationships – child-parent, friends. It is necessary to reduce tension and hence the abrasiveness of human interaction.
If I am submissive, I think I can manage both a Pulitzer prize and a man.
Maybe it is not about the intelligence or the power or the success. Intelligence in itself is attractive. An intelligent woman is interesting.
Maybe it is the exertion of the female power and thus upsetting the balance in a traditional male-female relationship.
Dowd wrote: '…..the aroma of male power is an aphrodisiac for women, but the perfume of female power is a turnoff for men….”
According to the article: “Dowd related how normally assertive women told her they were forced to chose between reverting to a 1950s domestic drone or a coquette if they wanted a husband, or even a date, dumbing themselves down in order to reassure and lure men - and stop them running off with the secretary/nanny/researcher/public relations assistant.”
Well, well, this is yet another unsavory ramification of the feminist movement.
While these strong women complain about men wanting to dumb down, would they really be happy going out with someone less intelligent than them? Would any girl want to go out with someone who’s less intelligent than she is? So why are there all these complaints?
I want to be with an equal. How else can I enjoy a good conversation?
“The pundit of the New York Times threw her well-manicured hands up in the air last week and declared that today's brainy and powerful women can't get a man because they scare them off. Men, she said, preferred to dumb down when looking for love.” Guardian wrote.
So much has been written about men wanting to dumb down. I can’t blame them. Usually intelligent strong women don’t come with a submissive nature.
Submissiveness, I think, is not just a necessary trait in maintaining a marriage but also in maintaining all forms of relationships – child-parent, friends. It is necessary to reduce tension and hence the abrasiveness of human interaction.
If I am submissive, I think I can manage both a Pulitzer prize and a man.
Maybe it is not about the intelligence or the power or the success. Intelligence in itself is attractive. An intelligent woman is interesting.
Maybe it is the exertion of the female power and thus upsetting the balance in a traditional male-female relationship.
Dowd wrote: '…..the aroma of male power is an aphrodisiac for women, but the perfume of female power is a turnoff for men….”
According to the article: “Dowd related how normally assertive women told her they were forced to chose between reverting to a 1950s domestic drone or a coquette if they wanted a husband, or even a date, dumbing themselves down in order to reassure and lure men - and stop them running off with the secretary/nanny/researcher/public relations assistant.”
Well, well, this is yet another unsavory ramification of the feminist movement.
While these strong women complain about men wanting to dumb down, would they really be happy going out with someone less intelligent than them? Would any girl want to go out with someone who’s less intelligent than she is? So why are there all these complaints?
I want to be with an equal. How else can I enjoy a good conversation?
posted by eternal bough at 7:29 AM
8 Comments:
Intelligence is way up on my list!
Just under gorgeous looking, sexy body, adept at housework and needlework, wonderful cook, lovely singer, graceful dancer, sporty and of course let's not forget handy with the tools and of course not forgetting genius at programming.
*sigh*
i don't see too many intellegent men around. where ar they?
It takes one to know one.
paddy: is that your list? you are that easily pleased? why do you want someone who is a programming genius? to work for Perfect Crime Inc?
on another note, any prayer requests? maybe healing?
shirley: all those male bloggers listed on my blog are all intelligent. take your pick.
paddy,
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i'm a programmer though..........
EB, thanks for the advice. i would look into your list if i'm in singapore.
EB: Jokes aside, intelligence really is up on my list. And it really annoys me to see girls I know are smart act bimbo. Maybe your article explains why. (And on hindsight, probably I shouldn't find a genius programmer cos that would make me insecure, seeing as I am no alpha male)
Shirley: No kidding? I take it from your baby that you're already married though ;p
paddy: no worries, most girls like SNAGs, they don't like alpha male. I am different, I am weird. I am a pre-modernism girl who detests feminism but is victimised by postmodernism.
paddy: only intelligent men are not treaten by intelligent women. Since I intimidate most so I take it there're many intelligent men around... :P "smart" girls who act bimbo are those who want to sacrifice their intelligence for LOVE. LOVE is very important to SOME girls, you know... *sigh*
no, I'm not married. that's just a photo I took (of my god-daughter), I use it because "she's looking ahead pondering," suitable for where I'm at in life now...
EB: I agree with you, as much as I'm independent, I don't get feminism. I feel like they are just whole bunch of insecure women who need attention. (yikes! hope I didn't offend anyone... but what do I care!)
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