Rooftop at Scarlet Hotel
Having drinks on the rooftop of Scarlet Hotel is romantic, but I wasn't in the mood for love. At least, that place was worth missing tennis for.
I asked my date a question which I have been asking my friends recently. What are the list of qualities that you want God to give you if he were to make you into a woman and what is the first thing you would ask for?
He bent down his head, held his head with his hands. It was a tough question. He wanted to be truthful.
Then he said, "Smart."
I was surprised, pleasantly surprised. Of all the guys I know, I least expect him not to place "looks" as the priority.
"Why? You could end up being really really ugly. All you have is intelligence and nothing else." I asked in surprise.
He was thoughtful again. Then he lean forward and said, "yes, smart."
I asked quietly, "Why?"
"Well, I am going to be lonely if I am ugly. But I am smart. I would have the ability to appreciate good writings, music, arts and many other things. I won't be that lonely after all. It would be very bad for getting laid, but if I am desperate, I would pay for sex." He wasn't joking. He almost said it with a tinge of sadness at the harsh reality that he would face if he were an ugly woman, but a smart one. "If I am stupid and pretty, I won't be able to rise above my circumstances."
I smiled and my eyes were a little red. I was moved. I know the kind of joy I receive whenever I enjoy a good piece of writing or music. I wish I have more resources to appreciate more. Whatever little I have, I won't ever want to give that up for looks.
I decided to get to know my date better instead of letting the night lapsed into another "hi and bye, thanks for the company, I had a great time." kind of date.
Why did I not expect him to exude such wisdom, to think a little deeper? Afterall, he is one of the few guys who had finished the whole of Marcel Proust. My set of Marcel Proust is still sitting on my shelf relatively untouched. I will pick it up again. Afterall, I am unemployed.
I asked my date a question which I have been asking my friends recently. What are the list of qualities that you want God to give you if he were to make you into a woman and what is the first thing you would ask for?
He bent down his head, held his head with his hands. It was a tough question. He wanted to be truthful.
Then he said, "Smart."
I was surprised, pleasantly surprised. Of all the guys I know, I least expect him not to place "looks" as the priority.
"Why? You could end up being really really ugly. All you have is intelligence and nothing else." I asked in surprise.
He was thoughtful again. Then he lean forward and said, "yes, smart."
I asked quietly, "Why?"
"Well, I am going to be lonely if I am ugly. But I am smart. I would have the ability to appreciate good writings, music, arts and many other things. I won't be that lonely after all. It would be very bad for getting laid, but if I am desperate, I would pay for sex." He wasn't joking. He almost said it with a tinge of sadness at the harsh reality that he would face if he were an ugly woman, but a smart one. "If I am stupid and pretty, I won't be able to rise above my circumstances."
I smiled and my eyes were a little red. I was moved. I know the kind of joy I receive whenever I enjoy a good piece of writing or music. I wish I have more resources to appreciate more. Whatever little I have, I won't ever want to give that up for looks.
I decided to get to know my date better instead of letting the night lapsed into another "hi and bye, thanks for the company, I had a great time." kind of date.
Why did I not expect him to exude such wisdom, to think a little deeper? Afterall, he is one of the few guys who had finished the whole of Marcel Proust. My set of Marcel Proust is still sitting on my shelf relatively untouched. I will pick it up again. Afterall, I am unemployed.
posted by eternal bough at 12:34 AM
5 Comments:
hmm u got yourself a smart and romantic date...do tell where can I get myself one.. :)
you can have him if you want. I am not that attracted to him.
ooh that is such a smoothie answer. deliver with sincerity some more. win already lor. :) i would have been quite taken by it as well.
now, i wonder in reverse what single musthave-trait a woman would pick if she were a man.
i would choose wisdom after a heart after God. If you have a heart after God, you definitely win already. I choose wisdom because I need wisdom to want the right things, to think the right things, to choose rightly. I choose the same quality for both sexes.
I would be pleased to be complimented this way:
"You are kind and compassionate - the kind of qualities a godly woman have."
and would be cheesed off with:
"You are beautiful and intelligent. I have not seen a woman with such rare combination."
My instant response to that would be: "You are such a loser."
To be able to recognise that kindness and compassion are fruits of the spirits and have the ability to admire them more than anything else show that this man is wise. Boy, I'd follow him till end-time.
I think your questions needs some rules. The quality cannot be something that can be controlled, for example, looks. Or intelligence. Things like 'godliness' is really up to an individual. Wisdom is debatable though, cos God did say he'll give it freely. (James 1:5) So why ask for something you can already get? It's like wasting your $100 Mango Voucher on buying the paper bags.
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